7 Simple Steps to a Pacifier-Free Child
Think it’s finally time for your little to say good-bye to her pacifier? Are there no signs she’ll be quitting soon and you’re wondering how you can wean her from it without tantrums and tears?
Don’t get me wrong, pacifiers can be lifesavers for parents with fussy babies and screaming toddlers. They provide great comfort.
But as your child gets older, they start to become less of a helpful tool and more of a nuisance. And while most children wean themselves around ages 2 to 4, others need a little extra help saying farewell.
In this post, we will discuss the pros and cons of pacifier use, when the best time is to ditch the pacifier, and 7 easy steps to help your child break the habit.
Are There Any Pros to Using A Pacifier?
Pacifiers can be beneficial as they satisfy a baby’s natural sucking instinct, provide comfort and distraction, and can help your baby soothe and fall asleep. Pacifiers have also been shown to reduce the risk of sudden infant death syndrome (SIDS) between 1 to 6 months of age.
The periodic sucking helps keep your baby in a lighter state of sleep, reducing the chance that she will stop breathing (source).
Is There Any Harm in Continuing to Use a Pacifier?
While pacifier use does provide many advantages in the early days, as your baby gets older, the risks start to outweigh the benefits.
After 6 months of age, babies who regularly use pacifiers have a higher chance of developing middle ear infections than those who don’t. Doctors believe this is because continuous sucking causes pressure changes within the ears and can potentially prevent fluid drainage, causing it to build up, creating an infection.
Prolonged pacifier use after the age of 2 can also lead to several dental issues, because as your child grows and matures, her jaw will start to grow around anything consistently held inside of it.
According to the American Academy of Pediatrics (AAP) and the American Dental Association (ADA), the overuse of a pacifier can lead to improper growth of the mouth, misalignment of the teeth, and changes in the shape of the roof of the mouth (source). If your child continues to use a pacifier after age 2, make sure you mention it to their dentist, so he can check their teeth and jaw.
Some experts also believe long-term use of pacifiers can hinder speech development. If your child constantly has its binky in its mouth, then it won’t be practicing babbling or talking as much.
Plus, it can distort speech and impede normal development of tongue and lip muscles (source).
When Is the Best Time to Ditch the Pacifier?
After 6 months of age, the pacifier becomes more of a habit than helpful. According to the American Academy of Family Physicians (AAFP) and the AAP, it is best to wean your child between 6 to 12 months of age to avoid middle ear infections, especially if your child is prone to them.
To avoid delays in speech development, it’s best to wean by age 1, as this is the age important developments in your child’s speech and language learning are occurring rapidly. And to avoid “pacifier teeth,” it’s best to ditch the pacifier by age 2 (source).
While these are merely recommendations and not set rules, it’s much easier to wean your child sooner rather than later. Weaning before they can crawl and walk is best, as they won’t be able to go searching all over the house for their beloved binky.
Plus, an independent toddler throwing a tantrum is usually more difficult to soothe than a crying baby.
If you’re having trouble weaning your child by the age of 2, then make sure you’re at least using an “orthodontic friendly” pacifier to help limit the risk of dental issues.
An orthodontic pacifier has a nipple that is flattened at the bottom and rounded at the top. They flatten in your baby’s mouth just like a mother’s nipple to provide the most natural sucking action.
They also reduce pressure on the gums and developing teeth and support the shape of your baby’s developing palate and jaw (source).
7 Steps to Weaning
If it’s time for your child to ditch the paci, then help her do so with minimal tantrums and tears by following these 7 steps:
1. Timing is Everything
It’s best not to start weaning around the same time as a stressful event, such as starting daycare, the arrival of a new sibling, taking a long car ride or a family vacation, or moving into a new house.
Your child will need to be able to soothe themselves during these challenging situations, and until she has another full-proof way to do so, then it’s best not to take her binky away until these events are over.
2. Limit its Use
It’s easiest to start by limiting your child’s pacifier use during the day. You could restrict its use by only letting your child have it when you are at home.
Work up to phasing it out completely during the day and only offer it at naptime and bedtime. Then once that is going well, you can eventually phase it out of naptime and then bedtime.
Nighttime always seems to be the most difficult, so it may be helpful to start a new bedtime routine. That may consist of a bath, a book, some singing, and rocking your baby to sleep. Try out a few different things and see what works best.
3. Offer a Transitional Object
Offer your child a transitional object in place of the binky. A transitional object, much like a pacifier, will help relieve stress and help your baby adjust to new or challenging situations.
These are also commonly known as security items, and could be a new toy or stuffed animal or a new favorite blanket. Ideally, you’ll want something they can sleep with safely, so they can self soothe at night.
4. Don’t Use it as Your First Line of Defense
It can be so easy to just cave in and give your child the paci during a meltdown. While there are many reasons your baby could be crying, try your best to not turn to the pacifier first.
Check their diaper and see if they’re hungry. Hold them, sing to them or play soft music, read to them, rock them, or use distraction with toys or activities.
Try to keep your child busy and moving, so they are less likely to think about their binky.
5. Use Praise When your Child Chooses Not to Use The Paci
Make it known how awesome your child is doing when they choose not to use their pacifier.
Complement them by telling them “What a big child you are!” and “I’m so proud of you!” Offer fun little rewards, like stickers, stamps, Play doh, or a box of raisins.
Keep It Positive:
Be sure not to ever scold, punish, or use any type of negative reinforcement if your child does resort back to the pacifier. Negative reinforcement will create fear, stress, and distrust, often leading to a regression.
6. Make it Unappealing
You could also try to make your child’s pacifier less appealing if they are having a hard time giving it up. You could dip it in white vinegar or lemon juice to make it distasteful.
Your child will probably spit it out right away and soon want nothing to do with it.
Beware of Some Methods:
Some mothers also like to cut the tip off or pierce the nipple to reduce the sucking satisfaction, but this could potentially cause a choking hazard. If you do this, it is best just to show the child that the paci broke and throw it away together.
7. Have a Special Farewell Ceremony
When your child is finally ready to say bye to the binky for good, celebrate by having a special farewell ceremony. This works especially well for older children.
Take your child shopping, let them pick out a new toy, and allow them to “pay” for their new toy with their pacifier. You could also throw a bye-bye binky party complete with party hats, balloons, and tasty treats.
An Alternative Method: Going Cold Turkey
Going cold turkey can be an effective method for some children, but it may require a little extra patience and creativity on your part.
If you choose to go this route, explain to your child that pacifiers are for babies and that it’s time to say goodbye to their binky because they are becoming “a big kid.” Continue the conversation by telling them all the fun things big kids get to do.
With the cold turkey route, you could “accidentally” forget your child’s paci on a big trip or you could do an epic farewell event.
You could have your child help you bury their paci with a plant seed, so they can watch the plant grow as they grow, or you could have your child leave it for the “binky fairy” and replace it with that brand new toy they’ve been wanting.
It Won’t Be Easy:
Keep in mind that going cold turkey will be difficult for both you and your child, no matter what their age is. Expect some tears, tantrums, and possibly some sleep disruptions.
Expert Tips From Real Moms
Getting rid of the pacifier is an epic and quite challenging event. And while not all things that work for one family will work for another, it’s always nice to get some tips and encouragement from other moms.
- Out of sight, out of mind: Simply removing all pacifiers from your child’s reach and sight may help them forget about it.
- Read a “bye-bye binky” book: Find a book that will help your child prepare for the parting of their paci and read it to them every day. Some mom favorites include Bye-Bye Binky: Big Kid Power, Pacifiers are Not Forever and Bea Gives Up Her Pacifier.
- Give yourself a break: This can be a stressful time, for both you and your child, but remember that a little determination and patience will go a long way in breaking the habit. Lots of other parents are going through the exact same thing, so try not to beat yourself up and give yourself some grace.
- You’ve got this: You’re doing awesome, mama! That paci will be gone before you know it, even if it doesn’t feel that way yet.
Weaning your child from the pacifier can be sticky and challenging, but it’s important to avoid long-term use to reduce the risks of ear infections, dental issues, and speech problems. Make it easy on your child and yourself by weaning gradually with these 7 steps:
- Choose an uneventful time to start weaning.
- Gradually limit the pacifier use during the day, and eventually phase it out of the nighttime routine.
- Offer a transitional object for comfort and security.
- Use other methods for soothing, such as rocking, singing, and distraction.
- Offer praise and rewards when your child chooses not to use the binky.
- Make the paci unappealing with lemon juice or vinegar.
- Have a farewell ceremony when your child is ready to officially say goodbye.
You could also implement the cold turkey method if these gradual steps simply aren’t working. If you’re still struggling to get your child to wean, then it might not be a bad idea to talk to your child’s doctor or dentist for some help.
How did you get your little one to ditch the pacifier? Share your weaning tips with us in the comments and be sure to share this post with all your mom friends who are trying to bid the binky farewell.