It doesn’t matter whether it’s your first birth or tenth, a home birth, a birth in a hospital, a vaginal delivery, or a cesarean section — you are facing a new experience.
The unknown is an intrinsic element of every birth, and the unknown can provoke fear, no matter how well prepared you are.
One way to manage the unknown of your child’s delivery is through birth affirmations.
What are Birth Affirmations?
An affirmation is a short and simple phrase which you repeat to yourself on a regular basis (1).
The theory behind using affirmations is that by saying, writing, or thinking the words often enough, you will be able to program your brain to believe them.
This will affect your behavior and the way in which you interact with your environment.
Some proponents of birth mantras go one step further and say that by believing in something strongly enough, you can bring it into existence.
How Can Birth Affirmations Help During Labor
We can read about and research birth in a multitude of ways and arm ourselves with all of the available information.
But we can’t understand what it is to go through birth until we have done so.
When you have gone through one birth, it doesn’t mean your second or subsequent birth will be the same. And I say that not as someone who has extensively researched the subject, although I have, but as the mother of multiple children. Each of my births was different.
So, birth affirmations can help you physically, mentally, and emotionally prepare for birth, even if you have birthed before. They can also help you through your birth and even assist you in the days immediately following the process.
A Frequently Overlooked Facet Of Birth Affirmations
One thing to remember when you are selecting and using birth affirmations is that things may deviate from your plans.
You may plan to have a drug-free home birth, but find yourself in a hospital using pain relief. You might have your labor bag ready by the door and your hospital stay planned, only to discover your baby has other ideas and decides to arrive before you can leave the house.
Some women use birth affirmations such as “My body knows what it is doing,” or “I will welcome my child into the world in a peaceful, relaxed way.” Then, when things don’t go according to plan, they feel like they have failed in some way, or that their body has failed. This is not true — there is only so much you can control.
So, when choosing your affirmations keep in mind that despite your careful planning, things might deviate from your birth plan. If there is a deviation from your plan, it doesn’t mean you failed.
Positive Birth Affirmations
Approaching your birth with a positive mindset can help you deal with contractions and work through the pain. Attitude can be everything, and it’s the only thing you have complete control over.
If you need help coming up with positive birth affirmations, here are some to start with.
- I am flexible and open to suggestions of change.
- I am a strong, capable woman, and I can do this.
- My mind and body are relaxed.
- It is natural to be scared of the unknown, my fear is natural.
- I will not think of it as pain to be feared. I will think of it as sensations to be embraced.
- Every wave of contractions brings my baby closer to me.
- I am ready for my birthing experience.
- I will meet my baby soon.
- I am prepared for whatever birth my body and baby need.
- Trust in my abilities, trust in my choices.
- There is nothing wrong with being afraid. My fear demonstrates my love. I will work through my fear and be left only with love.
- Soon my baby will leave my body, but it will never leave my heart. I am already a mother, and I will always be a mother. We are just evolving from one body to two.
Natural Birth Affirmations
Some mothers want to bring their baby into the world as their long-ago ancestors did — naturally without pain relief. As long as you do so with a mind that is open to intervention, choosing a natural birth can offer you a great deal.
Here are some suitable natural birth affirmations.
- It is not pain I am feeling, it is my body doing what it is made for.
- When I feel I can do it no longer, I can, and I will.
- I look forward to my birthing day.
- My baby is making its way into the world on waves of contractions.
- Inhale strength and exhale pain.
- Soon I will meet my baby, and the pain of birth will dissipate.
- I do not need validation from others. My body, my baby, my birth.
- I am joining the generations of mothers who have birthed before me. They did it and so can I.
- Childbirth is a natural process. Whatever happens, it will be my birthing experience and I will embrace it.
- For water births: The warm water is welcoming my baby, helping it gently from my body and into the world.
- We are all born through our mother’s pain. With this pain, I am giving my child life.
- I will be present at every moment. I will not try to escape this birth. Instead, I will embrace it and the life I am giving to my child.
Birth Affirmations for Dads
Dads can feel adrift during labor. When your partner is in the throes of childbirth, you do not want her to be worried about you so birth affirmations can be a useful way of being self-sufficient.
Your calm and control will also help your partner feel less distress, so these birth affirmations are a two for one deal.
- She is strong, I am strong, our family is strong.
- I respond to her needs in our shared birth experience.
- The birth of our baby is also the birth of me as a father.
- She is safe, our baby is safe.
- I will ensure her needs are met.
- We created this baby together, we will raise this baby together, and we will birth this baby together.
- I am here to love and support, unconditionally, in whatever way will help her the most.
- We breathe together through each contraction, and soon we will hold our baby together.
- This birth is beautiful and a splendid process.
- Everything I do will be calculated to help her through the process.
- I am in awe of this amazing woman.
- I am already a father, I just have not met my baby. When I meet my baby, I will be the father it needs.
Christian Birth Affirmations
For those who believe, faith is important during the good times and the bad.
For those whose faith is intertwined with every area of their life, or for those who wish to include their faith as part of the birth experience, we have some Christian birth affirmations.
- I trust God to guide me and my baby through birth.
- God chose this day for my baby to be born.
- Have patience, my baby will arrive when God deems the time is right.
- Between each contraction, I shall rest with the Lord.
- Our Lord has given us this baby, and he shall choose how our baby comes into the world. I will trust his decision.
- I shall cast my fear and anxiety onto Him, for he is the Lord, our God, and I live in his love.
- I can do this through Him, for he gives me strength.
- He is here beside me and I am doing what He has designed for me.
- We welcome his beautiful creation into the world.
- Praise be, for the Lord, our God, is guiding me through this pain.
- Christ strengthens me.
- The spirit of God has made me and the breath of the Almighty gives me life.
Cesarean Section Birth Affirmations
Some women feel that by having a cesarean birth, they are failing in some way. This can lead to postpartum issues of anxiety and a loss of self-worth. Delivering a baby, no matter how you do so, is a valid birth that should be embraced and celebrated.
These affirmations will help keep you open to what you need to do.
- The safe delivery of my baby is the most important thing.
- Every birth is a valid birth.
- Allowing medical intervention shows love for my baby.
- I am giving my baby the best birth possible.
- The story of my baby’s birth is amazing because it is our birth story.
- My love for my baby is what makes me a mother, not how I give birth.
- Our delivery team wants only what is best for me and my baby.
- There is no weakness in cesarean birth because to give up my plan shows strength.
- I am in the right place, doing the right thing.
- My choosing a cesarean is not a failure. It is an empowered, informed choice.
- Birth is miraculous, no matter how it happens.
- As I see my baby lifted from my body, I will feel the joy surge through me.
You Can Do This
Your birth may be one of calm and focused serenity, or it may be a screaming haze of sweat and swearing.
Remember that the purpose of birth is to bring your child into the world.
Select your birth affirmations accordingly. Practice them in the weeks and days before your birth. When the time comes to meet your baby, you will be glad you made the effort.